No jeans. No children. No favors. No pluses.
A couple has gone viral on TikTok after sharing their list extreme expectations for their wedding guests.
After years of helping others catch her perfect days Wedding Photographer from Colorado Kaytlyn Rosko, 26, was delighted to finally be planning her own wedding to fiancé Tyler Wyatt, 31.
The couple went viral when they shared a video titled “Hyping yourself up to tell our wedding guests…” which amassed 11.4 million views and 1.7 million comments in three days.
“I was definitely shocked when the video of me dancing in my towel got 11 million views,” Rosko told the Post.
“I knew the way I wanted my wedding to be unconventional, but there were tons of brides like me who wanted it that way [but they] were just unsure if it was okay to do so. I wanted to show that we’re nervous too, but that we believe your day should be YOUR day!”
Rosko’s comments were quickly flooded with anecdotes from former brides — and questions from brides-to-be.
“I literally had someone show up in short jumpsuits to my brother’s wedding, it was a very formal place.” Rachel Henninger remembered in TikTok comments. “Omg nooooo!!!!” Rosko replied.
“I’ve only been invited to one wedding so far and they said no kids and I was HYPED I don’t want to take those damn kids anywhere.” Sydney peers answered. “We have 3 children, so there will be 3 children in total. We hope it’s the stars,” Rosko explained.
“I never understood wedding gifts. The favor is that you can dance and watch me look beautiful.” Melissa Jordan commented. “That… and the FOOD!!!” Rosko replied.
When Oh Bawlz claiming “not allowing a plus is cheap and cheesy” sparked a heated discussion with over 500 comments from people debating the topic.
Weddings can be a time of stress and dashed hopes, but the soon-blushing bride is working to help other couples plan their perfect day.
Since the first video went viral, Rosko has followed suit with several others who have delved into the ins and outs of deciding which guests are allowed a plus-one, how to communicate your wedding rules to your guestswhy you need a FAQ page on your wedding website and wedding trends who will stay here.
Rosko has been photographing weddings since 2015, but is always brought to tears. “I cry at every single one, without exception. I’m a romantic, ruled by Venus and love… There’s something about weddings, intimate or not, that brings me joy,” she told the Post.
“When you take the time to plan a thoughtful celebration, you probably want it to go smoothly. Setting clear expectations may not eliminate all unexpected problems, but it can certainly help! I think it’s a seamless experience for your guests.”
The majority of viewers supported the couple’s decision to set boundaries and clear expectations. Rosko claimed none of her guests complained about her rules.
“If that’s what you want at your wedding, do it. This is the only time in your adult life that you can have whatever you want. It can only be about you if you want to,” Rosko emphasized in another video.
“This is the day. Adults don’t have many days like this, so let’s just enjoy it how we want and with the people we want.”
Meanwhile, The Post reached out to another expert for advice: Rachel White, an Atlanta wedding photographer and founder of Papillon visuals. White emphasized the importance of making your expectations clear to your wedding guests upfront if you insist on certain details.
“Some couples are very laid back and don’t mind, while others feel their day would be ruined if someone brought their kids in without asking or a plus one who wasn’t invited,” she said.
“Establishing a dress code, requiring little ones to be present, etc. can really set the tone of the entire reception. Planning your wedding day is about respecting yourself because everyone around you is probably trying to pull you in a thousand different directions. Go with your gut when making some of these important decisions.”
White added, “If it’s extremely important to you that your guests do what you ask of them, make sure you emphasize that up front!”
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