ANGRY parents protested after students were asked not to call them “mom” and “dad” and to use “adult” instead.
Principals at four state elementary schools in Brighton said the phrase should be used to avoid discriminating against “non-traditional” families.
A school vision statement from Carlton Hill Elementary School says: “We try to talk about our ‘adults’ rather than our ‘fathers and mothers’ in order to acknowledge our shortcomings. different family groups our students live in.”
Although parents have reacted angrily to the decision, saying their children have become confused.
A parent whose child attends the school said: Online email: “It’s very confusing for us adults, never mind the kids. They just don’t understand why the teacher can’t call mom or dad, mom or dad?
“I know schools are trying to look at the different types of families students can come from, but the majority have one parent, regardless of whether they live together or not. So why can’t the staff simply give the kids and call their parents what; mom or dad? “
Another said: “In trying to be more inclusive, schools are forgetting about the father and mother who are the most important people in a child’s life. This is just madness, where does it stop? “
Social media commentators also jumped into the debate.
One person on Twitter wrote: “I will go into that school and declare to the whole place, that my kids will always call me mom and my husband dad and there’s nothing they can do about it…this is stupid right are not?”
Although another replied: “My niece’s previous primary school was always called ‘adult’ because they had a number of children in their care and it was considered insensitive to refer to their mother. and dad.”
While a third added: “I started teaching 20 years ago and treating children’s families as adults or guardians was used long before that. Receiving a letter, or being asked to bring Mom and Dad in, annoys people who don’t have Mom and Dad. Very basic empathy has been around for decades. ”
Other elementary schools in the seaside town have outlined similar policies that outline what language staff should use to ensure students raised in diverse families are not discriminated against.
St Luke’s Primary School says on its website: “We have an Equal Language Code for staff (e.g. to value all families, we never talk about ‘mom and dad’ “but instead talk about “adults”).”
Another elementary school, Elm Grove, states in its Statement of Equality: “We try to talk about our ‘grown-ups’ instead of our ‘mothers and fathers’ to admit it. different family groups in which our students live.”
Saltdean Primary says in its Equity and Diversity Policy: “Language- we use the term parent/caregiver instead of ‘mother’ and ‘father’ because we recognize that their family is I include many different people. As children begin their studies at Saltdean, they will discuss and share what makes a family for them. This allows children to see family dynamics that are different from their own, but also helps them realize that it is relationships that make a family.”
However, the schools’ move appears to have put them in trouble with Brighton and Hove Council, the body that oversees them.
The local council said it had not issued any directives on the matter and that schools were free to make their own decisions.
It said in a statement: “Our advice to schools is of course it would be good to use words like mom, dad or grandma if staff know a child’s family background.
“But we have a very diverse student body and we want all members of the school community to feel included.
“In the case of a child’s family that does not know the term adulthood or adulthood may include, for example, grandparents, carers, families with parents of the same sex, and families with single parents.
“Schools make their own decisions about their equity policies.”
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