A dad-to-be has shared how overwhelmed he feels getting everything ready for his baby when all his girlfriends will do is spend more of their money.
The 23-year-old said that whenever he gives his girlfriend excessive spending, she considers him to be insensitive.
“This was an unintended pregnancy but a pregnancy nonetheless,” he began on Reddit.
“We found out in January and I’ve been planning the game ever since.
“I really like and love my girlfriend so I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make us all comfortable and happy.
“I work full-time as a mechanic. I work six days a week, 11:30 a.m. and she’s a nanny six days a week.
“She and I have had a lot of conversations about spending unnecessary and saving as much as we can so we can prepare our children well when they come of age.
“So half of my weekly pay goes into savings and the rest goes to bills and necessities like gas and groceries.”
“She finds that I’m pretty overwhelmed and I’m stressed about the money side of things,” he continued.
“And told me ‘Stressing about it won’t solve anything.”
“Sure, I agree with that, but she wasn’t nervous or prepared at all.
“She still goes shopping and spends hundreds of dollars on clothes and fast food that we don’t need right now.
“Every time I tell her we need to be a team and spend and save together, she gets annoyed with me and acts like I just yelled at her.
“The bottom line is, I seem to be the only one contributing to our future.
“She was like, ‘I’m having a baby. It’s no big deal.’
“How do I make her realize the reality of the situation?
“No matter what I say, if she doesn’t like to hear it, I’m a ‘mean’ or ‘insensitive’ person.
“I was primarily worried that I would become a single mother in a relationship with the woman who gave birth to my child.
“I didn’t know how else to get over her. I tried to be patient, I tried to calmly talk to her, and I tried a difficult love.
“But nothing I do seems to be working and she’s just not on the same page as me anymore.
“I felt like talking to her about all this was pointless and ended up making me worry about the future.”
The majority of the comments agreed that he was indeed bound and made their suggestions.
One person wrote: “Perhaps you should try sitting together and working out a budget.
“Show her how much you’re making, how much you’re spending on bills, and how much you’re saving. And ask her to tell you her finances, too.”
A second person says, “Maybe, what needs to happen is that you two need to be willing to compromise and work together more effectively.
“Couples counseling can really help in this situation.”
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