She could feel it in her stomach.
One influencer opens up about how her body physically “repelled” the man she was convinced would be her future husband – who turned out to be just another toxic friend.
Lyss Boss, host of the podcast Date yourself insteadShe claims the stress with her ex-boyfriend has made her seriously ill.
“He was my future husband,” Boss, 30, told her fans in an interview Clip posted on TikTok with 2.7 million views.
“I had stomach pains every day, was constantly scared for no reason, was bloated like crazy and had to have an EKG of my heart because I was so stressed.”
“My body rejected the relationship,” the content creator added in the video, which amassed 112,300 likes.
Many people in the comments said they could relate to Boss’s experience.
“‘My body rejects the relationship’ hits my soul,” one person wrote.
“Same! Panic attacks, indigestion, insomnia, nausea, tachycardia, back pain. When we divorced it was all gone!” another chipped in.
“Yes!! Constant anxiety, woke up 2-3am. Felt super nervous and couldn’t hold down food. I broke up and it’s all gone,” one shared.
“Oh wow, that hits me. I feel like my relationship is making me sick too,” added one.
The podcast host explained on a previous episode that she and her ex were together “a very long time” and she thought he was her soulmate.
“We were in a high of life, totally in love, and then it all fell apart really, really quickly,” she said. “When things started to get rough and things started to get really difficult, I got these crazy chronic yeast infections.”
“I felt super sick. I always had stomach pains. I was always nauseous, bloated and tired. I just felt so weird,” she continued. “I couldn’t tell exactly. I didn’t really know what was going on.”
Boss explained that her infections were so painful that she “couldn’t walk” and that she tried diet changes and medication, but only got temporary relief.
“I got these sharp heart pains in my chest. I felt like I was having a heart attack,” she recalls. “I swear to God it was the craziest thing ever. My chest tightened and I felt a knife cut through my chest — that’s what it felt like.”
While it may seem a bit odd that being in a relationship with a person can make you physically ill, it’s actually quite common.
dr Michael Lam, an expert on adrenal fatigue, explained on his website that toxic relationships can be forms of stressors and that all forms of stress, both physical and emotional, trigger the NeuroEndoMetabolic Stress Response – the body’s global response to stress.
“In general, your body is designed to handle acute stress attacks. What it’s not designed for is chronic stress. And toxic relationships are a source of chronic stress,” he writes.
“Any stressful interaction in your toxic relationships triggers cortisol production and your adrenal glands will become exhausted after a while. This is how you end up developing Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome, even if you lead an otherwise healthy lifestyle.”
He explains that fatigue, weight gain, trouble sleeping, brain fog, anxiety, mild depression, dry skin, hair loss, loss of libido, PMS, infertility, estrogen dominance, compromised immunity, hypoglycemia, salt and sugar cravings, food and drug intolerance, and heart palpitations are all common Symptoms of AFS.
Boss recalled on her podcast that when she ended the relationship, all of her symptoms went away.
“After having crazy chronic health issues for months, all health issues went away when I broke up with this person,” she said. “When you’re in toxic situations and you really aren’t with the right person, your body will f–king talk to you. Your body will speak up.”
“If you don’t listen to your logic and you don’t listen to your thoughts telling you to get out, your body will try to tell you to get out physically. And I learned that the hard way.”