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I proposed an open marriage to my husband to spice up our sex life

AS Channel 4 Open House new show: The Great Sex Experiment shocks viewers, wife Samantha Pressdee, 39, reveals what happened when she suggested sleeping with other people…

“AFTER nine months of marriage, I couldn’t help but feel something was missing from my relationship.

Samantha Pressdee, 39, reveals what happened when she suggested sleeping with others

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Samantha Pressdee, 39, reveals what happened when she suggested sleeping with othersPhoto credit: Paul Tonge – The Sun
Samantha says she would never go into an open relationship again after being scarred by her experience with Louis

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Samantha says she would never go into an open relationship again after being scarred by her experience with LouisCredit: Samantha Pressdee
Samantha with Louis on her wedding day

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Samantha with Louis on her wedding dayCredit: Samantha Pressdee

My husband Louis Ntritsos had moved to London from Greece to live with me – and that’s when the cracks started to show.

By then we had been in a long-distance relationship for four years. But now we were fighting about everything from money to work, and our sex life was shrinking.

I felt suffocated and missed the excitement you get from a new love.

Restless and bored, I brought up the idea of ​​an open relationship.

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I naively believed that “free love” could revitalize our relationship. Louis was afraid that if I started sleeping with another man I would choose him over him. But he reluctantly agreed.

I argued that with one open marriage would be better than cheating on each other.

It was a few months later that I went on my first date — with a former flame. As I slipped into my little black dress, I could see panic spread across Louis’ face.

I planted kisses on him and told him not to worry and that I loved him and would always be.

Around this time – about a year after we got married – Louis moved back to Greece to work as a physical education teacher during the summers. We agreed that I would visit them regularly.

Our open marriage rules were simple: Always be honest with each other.

So when I slept with my ex I immediately called him.

I pictured him on the beach, approaching girls in bikinis. But he said he wasn’t interested in cheating and didn’t want other women.

So our “open relationship” was actually one-way. Louis hated thinking about me with other men. But although he was mad with jealousy, he did not ask for a divorce.

He only got more unhappy and couldn’t get over the fact that I had slept with another man.

I confessed that I still had feelings for my ex and that we had become closer, which made him even more insecure. He couldn’t understand how I could love two men at the same time.

Although he admitted to kissing other women, he told me he had never had sex with them.

But the tide turned when I found out he had slept with someone else too.

A friend showed me a beloved photo of him. He was forced to come in – and I was heartbroken.

Yes, it was my idea to have an open relationship, but I felt cheated because he lied and didn’t tell me. It was against the rules. I felt humiliated.

We broke up for two years, remained friends, but trust was lost. Then in 2017 I went on holiday to Rhodes and we rekindled our love.

Due to the great distance, we tried again with an open relationship. But this time I made it clear that there should be no secret girlfriends.

He agreed and for the first time in years I felt hopeful for our future. We even planned to have a baby.

But my luck was shattered when I found out a year after we met that he had slept with another British girl.

Also, she didn’t respect the idea of ​​a polyamorous marriage and wanted us to break up. She was also in a relationship and her boyfriend was unaware of the affair.

Unbeknownst to me, she had flown from Manchester to Greece to see Louis. I was angry.

I let him show me all the messages they had exchanged. As I flipped through them, I felt nauseous.

A friend showed me a beloved photo of him. He was forced to come in – and I was heartbroken

Not only had they been seeing each other in secret for almost two years, but he had also told her he was in love with her and they planned to stay together — in a monogamous relationship.

Angry, I filed for divorce. How could he try to have a baby with me when he was planning a future with her? We have remained good friends but our divorce was finalized in December 2019.

It felt like a fresh start.

I now live in Willenhall, West Mids and work as a comedian.

I am single and dating. But I would never go into an open relationship again. The experience has drawn me.

I just want one man now and I hope I will be enough for him.

For those thinking of an open relationship, my message is: think twice. I blame myself for my husband’s infidelity.

Love isn’t about rules, it’s about honesty and respect. The love between two people is precious – and so easy to destroy.

Louis, 37, from Kos, Greece says: “It was tough when Samantha asked me for an open relationship. I was scared of losing her and wanted her to be happy.

“But she told me it would make us stronger. In the end I agreed, but deep down I was concerned.

“As I watched her getting ready for her first date, I was very jealous. It was crazy and I didn’t want to know what they did.

“In the first year I didn’t see any other women. Then I met this girl and we started sleeping together. Samantha thinks I cheated on her, but I thought I was just doing what she wanted.

“But she told me I was doing it wrong because I didn’t tell her. I didn’t tell her because I thought I was protecting her. I tried to be a gentleman by sparing her the details.

“We broke up for two years and during that time I’ve met other women. When we got back together, Samantha told me she wanted an open relationship again. But I should have been honest that I was dating another woman.

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“I’m sorry I hurt her, I hated seeing her upset. Samantha is the love of my life. I still love her and will always love her.

“I would never be in an open relationship again. I still do not understand. I never tried to cheat on her, I just didn’t understand the rules.”

Samantha lives in Willenhall, West Mids and works as a comedian

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Samantha lives in Willenhall, West Mids and works as a comedianPhoto credit: Paul Tonge – The Sun

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