The Reddit post, “AITA for retirement and moving to South America like everyone in my family,” prompted users to highlight the importance of communication in a relationship, as the couple involved in the narrative appear to be arguing over something easily resolved could become .
The story we’re exploring today might not be as cheeky as the one about a mother and her teenage daughter sleeping with the same man, or the post “AITA for embarrassing my wife at the grocery store,” the was suspended for violating the terms. But one man’s view that his wife isn’t cooperating with his retirement plans has led Reddit users to disagree about what’s wrong and what’s not.
Reddit Deletes “AITA for Retirement and Moving to South America”
The much discussed Reddit post has been removed but can still be found on other platforms as it continues to generate a lot of reactions.
The story follows a married couple and the husband’s retirement plan, which has created tensions between him and his wife. The unidentified Reddit user says he’s retired after 33 years of work and brought home a property in South America 12 years ago. It had been his plan since he was 16 and everyone in the family knew about it.
He and his wife built their retirement home in South America and that has always been the man’s plan since the couple met.
The property is specially designed to meet the needs of the elderly and has 34 different fruit trees. It has a pool and a small area for the caretaker/gardener.
His wife helped bring the house to life by making suggestions for decoration and accompanying her husband for eight years while he was vacationing in South America.
Their retirement home has hosted many friends and family members and has also been rented out to guests when the couple is away.
Wife backs down from plan that everyone in the family knew about
The man says his wife is now unwilling to spend seven months a year in South America because she wants to be with her grandchildren. But the husband argues that he and his wife could still see the family for the remaining five months of the year.
He says flights to the site where his retirement home is being built are cheap and there are guest rooms to accommodate family members when they visit the couple.
When the husband says he is not ready to spend the summer outside of South America, his wife refuses to travel with him, so he books the plane tickets for himself.
The wife didn’t know about her husband’s plans until she saw his credit card spending, and when he said he was going for the winter like he’d told everyone, his wife said so too “She didn’t want to go this winter” actually meant “she didn’t want us to go this winter”.
The husband decides to go ahead with his plan anyway, telling his wife and family that he would see her again in the spring “unless she changes her mind and comes down.”
He concludes the post with the words: “Now you, my parents and my children are bugging me because I should leave them alone for the winter. It is 100% their choice.”
Users believe that remorse is the key
Most Reddit users believe the couple can reach an agreement simply by discussing their personal preferences, but some believe the wife is to blame for not cooperating with her husband, even though he has made his plans clear.
Some others, on the other hand, believe that people’s plans can change over time and that neither he nor his wife are responsible for it.
One user said, “You can’t force her to live there, but she can’t force you to live where you don’t like either. You both need to talk about it.”
“It’s not your fault. You didn’t exactly do that to her. She changed the plan, not you,” said another.
A third person said: “This is going to be a problem for the rest of her life, she has grandchildren and MANY grandparents don’t want to miss out on the grandchildren’s growth and fun. You’re not even coming back for the holidays?”
“She knew all along that it was your plan. “It’s sad that your wife isn’t willing to compromise,” said one.
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