Kristina Rihanoff, 44, has ruled out having more children with her partner Ben Cohen, 43, a former England rugby player who is the father of their five-year-old daughter Milena.
Parents of a single young player will inevitably be asked: “When will you have the next one?”
But why expectation, and is it better for a I have siblings?
Two women who both grew up as only children argue about this issue.
No, Calypso Rose said
The owner of the MARRIED gift company, Calypso, 40, has a five-year-old son. She speaks:
I’m so proud to be a only child. That’s why I purposely only have one.
I never felt like I lacked anything without a sibling. I have never wanted a brother or sister.
It wasn’t until I was in junior high, eight years old, that I thought of that. I’m not a loner – I have a lot of friends – but the advantage is that I also have some alone time.
I would create games or draw for hours. If anything, being an only child expanded my imagination.
Mom worked long hours in television industry. People may think it’s glamorous but freelance means she can’t afford to have another child, financially or in terms of time.
I’ve always been told that I have “only child” traits, like working for myself or being a bit bossy. And I’m the first to say I’m stubborn. I certainly don’t worry about what to do either.
I always knew I would only have one child – and that’s because I enjoy my independence. We have to go far. I cycle everywhere with my son on my bike and we live on a canal boat.
It’s a life we all love and it won’t work out for the four of us. I also have more time for my other half, because my mother is very happy to take care of a child.
I like an easy life. I just don’t know how parents deal with three kids.
A child is enough for me to be a parent. I like moments of peace and don’t like chaos.
I have the energy, resources, and focus to make sure he gets my attention to live his best life.
It is working so far. He didn’t notice that he didn’t have any siblings.
He grows when he has more “mom and dad time”. My husband has an older brother but he doesn’t mind having more than one child. He also enjoys an easy life.
With Financial sources we have, I can give my son a good life filled with my love, adventure and undivided attention.
I may be selfish but we are working on our ability to keep a happy and healthy family.
Yes, says Lisa Williams
LIFE coach Lisa, 35, lives in Rhuddlan, Denbighshire, with her husband Philip, 40, a factory worker, and their children Alysa, eight, and Talia-Beau, one. She speaks:
I am an only child and husband is an only child. But I’ve always wanted a sibling. I thought it was unbelievable to have a brother/sister who was always around and played with.
I was five years old when I realized it was just me. I wanted to see movies with siblings in them and see how happily and engrossed they played together afterwards.
I had a friend I want to play with. She is also an only child but it is not the same.
I would ask for a brother or a sister. The answer is always no.
My mother separated from my biological father and she did not want any more children. She was happy when it was just me and we had a close relationship.
Mother is also an only child. I have to spend the weekends with my nanny and I am the center of her world.
No one stole my toys or broke my stuff but it’s very lonely on weekends and absent. That’s why I don’t want my kids to be independent.
I know my instincts were right. My oldest daughter always asks, “Can I have siblings?”
However, we really struggled to have a second child. After trying for six years, Talia-Beau made family complete. Alysa was on the moon.
I am very lucky to have given her what she wanted. It’s beautiful and life-affirming to watch them play together. They also learn a lot of life skills, such as caring for each other and sharing.
I don’t think any mother would consider that selfish. I am sad to think that my children will never have aunts and uncles, even though I have friends who are godparents.
As for having two, I never regretted it. Mom and Nan may just be happy with each other but for me, I give a lot of love to the two children.
https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/17650318/only-child-selfish-siblings/ It’s selfish to have only one child