The deeply religious 85-year-old mother of the late actress Anne Heche is nothing but a survivor.
Nancy Heche has now survived four of her five children – in addition to her secretly gay husband Donald, who died of AIDS in 1983.
In her religiously-tinged 2006 memoir, The Truth Comes Out: When Someone You Love Is In A Same-Sex Relationship, she admitted to using amyl nitrate poppers to improve her sex life with Donald and married lovers to have taken.
Anne died Friday, a week after driving her blue Mini Cooper down an LA street at high speed and plowing into a small house, setting it on fire along with her car.
Before Anne was born, her sister Cynthia, then just 2 months old, died of a heart defect. Anne’s 18-year-old brother Nathan died in a car accident three months after Don Heche’s death. Another sister, Susan Bergman, who wrote her own family memoir entitled “Anonymity,” died of brain cancer in 2006.
Only one of Heche’s siblings, Abigail, survives.
Chicago-based Christian psychologist Nancy Heche, who uses the Bible in her counseling practice, was initially furious when Anne told her in 1997 that she had fallen in love with Ellen DeGeneres.
“I have plunged into disbelief and outrage,” she wrote. “I’m stunned, in a state of shock. Doesn’t Anne know what homosexuality has done to our family?”
“How are we ever going to bridge the gap, the self-confessed straight mother and the self-confessed gay daughter?” she added.
After the publication of Heche’s memoir, Call Me Crazy, in 2001, Nancy Heche wrote that she found “no place among the lies and blasphemy within the pages of this book.” Anne Heche said her mother did not believe Anne’s claims that her father abused her from when she was a child until she was 12.
Her daughter’s revelations about her relationship with DeGeneres brought back painful memories for Nancy, who said she didn’t know her husband was gay until he was dying at Bellevue Hospital in 1983 and a doctor told her he had AIDS.
She wrote that she never knew about her husband’s double life because she was a “50’s girl” who “grew up with Donna Reed, ‘Leave it to Beaver’ and Doris Day.”
When Heche found out about her husband’s AIDS diagnosis, it suddenly “clicked,” she writes.
“The dots connect like a stick of dynamite – the fuse sizzling toward the blast. I realize I’ve been lied to my entire married life.”
https://nypost.com/2022/08/13/anne-heches-mom-nancy-survives-four-of-her-five-kids/ Anne Heche’s mother Nancy outlives four of her five children